Be Molded by Society or Be Yourself Being?
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Recreation & Sports > Life Coaching
Mar 1, 2007
Robert Elias Najemy
Be Molded by Society or Be Yourself Being?
Once upon a time in a very typical village of a quite common country there lived a very famous and capable tailor named Dimo. It was quite an honor to have a suit made by this tailor, and people were willing to make many sacrifices in order to do so.
Our story starts when our hero KATHEN becomes 21 years of age, graduates from college and is overwhelmed with the desire to have a suit made by Dimo the tailor. Not having enough money, he borrowed from a number of friends and went for his first fitting. The fittings were pleasant and even more enjoyable was the attention he received from his friends when he let them know (by chance through causal discussion) that he was having suit made by Dimo.
The big day arrived. He waited with excited anticipation as the great and faultless Dimo placed the suit onto Kathen?s body.
Now something very strange happened. Kathen was confused. The suit did not fit him at all. It had nothing to do with his body and certainly was not in accordance to his taste.
His mind was in great conflict. What should he do? This was the great Dimo, who was perfect, who never made mistakes. This was the waited for moment of success of being recognized and accepted by all those around him. But the suit did not fit. What would the others say?
Being young and still bold (perhaps others would call it inexperience) he decided to speak up. ?Mr. Dimo, the suit is very nice but the right shoulder is longer than the left, there seems to be some problem?.
A wise and condescending smile appeared on Dimo?s face. ?My son, there is nothing wrong with the suit. You are standing lopsided?. He pushed Kathen?s right shoulder down so that although now he was in fact standing lopsided, the suit was now fitting his arms correctly. Or perhaps we should say that his arms were now fitting the suit.
Kathen was now even more confused, but decided to speak out again, ?You see there is a great amount of extra material bunched up on my neck?.
Again the same condescending smile, a smile that you see on adults, when children ask serious questions which the adults cannot answer. ?You see Kathen, the real problem is that you are not standing properly. With this, the Great Dimo gently and without Kathen?s even understanding how, shaped his body again to fit the suit. This was Dimo?s great talent, to shape people to suits and not suits to people.
Kathen left fitted to his suit, hunched backed, turning to one side, with one shoulder lower than the other. All his friends loved his suit. He enjoyed their acceptance, praise and admiration. How lucky he was to have had this opportunity to be fitted by the great Dimo.
As time passed, however, the novelty of the suit produced less and less admiration from those around him. In addition, he began to feel various pains in his body and discomfort in his mind. A peculiar thing happened. His body retained this form even when he took off the suit. And even more discomforting was the fact that his mind had also taken the form of the suit and he saw the world around him as hunchbacked and lopsided. He had become totally distorted physically, emotionally and mentally by the suit, into which he had been fitted by the great Dimo.
He had lost his natural form, his own thoughts, his spontaneity, and his fluidity. His health and peace of mind were disturbed because his energies could not flow freely with a hunched and lopsided body and mind.
As his health failed even more intensely and his mind became even more agitated and sometimes depressed, he sought after some type of help. It was then that he discovered Yoga exercises, breathing techniques, meditation, positive thinking, self-analysis and study of spiritual truths.
His body and mind responded. The life energy began to flow again. His health returned. His mind became more relaxed and cheerful. He once again became his natural self undistorted by his ?Dimo Suit?. Of course he was not yet totally free. The body and mind had become used and addicted to the form of the suit they wore so many years. However, whenever Kathen performed these techniques, the energy began to flow again.
The problem remained that he still felt the need to ware the suit when he was in front of others, and thus his energy became blocked and distorted again and then needed again to do more exercises, breathing and relaxation in order to establish the proper flow again. He could not yet be his own self in front of the others, he still needed this suit to make him feel worthy and lovable by the others. At some point he will stop wearing this suit, and will be himself in all situations, and then his body, mind and energy will always flow freely.
Are you wearing a Dimo suit?
Is it distorting your body?
Your emotions? Your mind?
Would you like to take it off?
Would you like to restore the natural posture of your body?
Your mind? Your life?
It is up to you.
No one else can remove it for you.
(But be careful; Dimo also makes Yoga suits and
even spiritual aspirant suits.).
Our story starts when our hero KATHEN becomes 21 years of age, graduates from college and is overwhelmed with the desire to have a suit made by Dimo the tailor. Not having enough money, he borrowed from a number of friends and went for his first fitting. The fittings were pleasant and even more enjoyable was the attention he received from his friends when he let them know (by chance through causal discussion) that he was having suit made by Dimo.
The big day arrived. He waited with excited anticipation as the great and faultless Dimo placed the suit onto Kathen?s body.
Now something very strange happened. Kathen was confused. The suit did not fit him at all. It had nothing to do with his body and certainly was not in accordance to his taste.
His mind was in great conflict. What should he do? This was the great Dimo, who was perfect, who never made mistakes. This was the waited for moment of success of being recognized and accepted by all those around him. But the suit did not fit. What would the others say?
Being young and still bold (perhaps others would call it inexperience) he decided to speak up. ?Mr. Dimo, the suit is very nice but the right shoulder is longer than the left, there seems to be some problem?.
A wise and condescending smile appeared on Dimo?s face. ?My son, there is nothing wrong with the suit. You are standing lopsided?. He pushed Kathen?s right shoulder down so that although now he was in fact standing lopsided, the suit was now fitting his arms correctly. Or perhaps we should say that his arms were now fitting the suit.
Kathen was now even more confused, but decided to speak out again, ?You see there is a great amount of extra material bunched up on my neck?.
Again the same condescending smile, a smile that you see on adults, when children ask serious questions which the adults cannot answer. ?You see Kathen, the real problem is that you are not standing properly. With this, the Great Dimo gently and without Kathen?s even understanding how, shaped his body again to fit the suit. This was Dimo?s great talent, to shape people to suits and not suits to people.
Kathen left fitted to his suit, hunched backed, turning to one side, with one shoulder lower than the other. All his friends loved his suit. He enjoyed their acceptance, praise and admiration. How lucky he was to have had this opportunity to be fitted by the great Dimo.
As time passed, however, the novelty of the suit produced less and less admiration from those around him. In addition, he began to feel various pains in his body and discomfort in his mind. A peculiar thing happened. His body retained this form even when he took off the suit. And even more discomforting was the fact that his mind had also taken the form of the suit and he saw the world around him as hunchbacked and lopsided. He had become totally distorted physically, emotionally and mentally by the suit, into which he had been fitted by the great Dimo.
He had lost his natural form, his own thoughts, his spontaneity, and his fluidity. His health and peace of mind were disturbed because his energies could not flow freely with a hunched and lopsided body and mind.
As his health failed even more intensely and his mind became even more agitated and sometimes depressed, he sought after some type of help. It was then that he discovered Yoga exercises, breathing techniques, meditation, positive thinking, self-analysis and study of spiritual truths.
His body and mind responded. The life energy began to flow again. His health returned. His mind became more relaxed and cheerful. He once again became his natural self undistorted by his ?Dimo Suit?. Of course he was not yet totally free. The body and mind had become used and addicted to the form of the suit they wore so many years. However, whenever Kathen performed these techniques, the energy began to flow again.
The problem remained that he still felt the need to ware the suit when he was in front of others, and thus his energy became blocked and distorted again and then needed again to do more exercises, breathing and relaxation in order to establish the proper flow again. He could not yet be his own self in front of the others, he still needed this suit to make him feel worthy and lovable by the others. At some point he will stop wearing this suit, and will be himself in all situations, and then his body, mind and energy will always flow freely.
Are you wearing a Dimo suit?
Is it distorting your body?
Your emotions? Your mind?
Would you like to take it off?
Would you like to restore the natural posture of your body?
Your mind? Your life?
It is up to you.
No one else can remove it for you.
(But be careful; Dimo also makes Yoga suits and
even spiritual aspirant suits.).
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